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Young New Dads Most Stressed

depressed dad2Becoming a new father can be overwhelming no matter the age but a new study shows that men in their early 20′s are 68 percent likley to suffer from depression during fatherhood. The survey was taken over a 20 year period from 1994 to 2014 and included over 10,000 men who became fathers between the ages of 24 and 32.

The findings published in Pediatrics on April 14, state the risk of paternal depression during the first five years of fatherhood rose 10 percent in the younger fathers as opposed to the older men. The study done by The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health is very important as not a lot of attention has been paid to depression of father’s and how it can affect a child’s development.

The study also showed a greater incidence of depression among fathers who lived with their children, and even higher levels of depression among black and Hispanic fathers.

What is not clear is how accurate this survey is with the 10 questions asked of the men regarding feelings of unhappiness, how well-liked they felt, and if they were tired. I think young men are much less settled, so they naturally want to do and feel they are missing more, which can make them feel most stressed. Older men have done quite a bit usually and are more set in their ways so questions hit them in a different way.

The bottomline is the discussion has begun and some attention is being paid to fathers as it relates to paternal depression.  It is something worth investigating more.

 

Fatherhood Friday: A Daily Walk

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#Fatherhood is a daily walk. Take time to Make your kids better. Love+Nurture+Lead #DadsRule.

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Fatherhood Friday from OMG insider

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Kevin Frazier is the co-host of OMG!Insider and a dad of three boys, the first of which he had at age 19. You might think he is a veteran at fatherhood, but there is always something new to learn about yourself and how to better parent. Take it from the single dad of multiples writing this.

Frazier sat down with Robert “Daddy” Nickell of My Life As A Dad to talk about being a daddy.  One major point I took from the interview was when Frazier came to a realization while trying to push athletics on his youngest son.
“His life isn’t my life and I can’t project that on him. A great lesson for me. Let them find their own journey.” – Kevin Frazier

Words to live by … Salute! #fatherhoodFriday #dadsRule

What Bieber Really Needs is a Dad

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The image of Justin Bieber bare-chested on the cover of Rolling Stone Magazine sent Huffington Post blogger Roland Warren into a poignant tirade about fatherhood or lack there of, in the Biebs case.  Warren gives excerpts from the article and his overall view of Bieber and how the lack of a dad is his life is the reason of his very public downward spiral.

“I have a special place in my heart for fatherless boys because I know well their lonely journey. A boy has a hole in his soul in the shape of his father. God whispers into the womb of his mother that there is a man who will love him like no other. But, if his father is unable or unwilling to fill this hole, it can leave a wound that is not easily healed.” – Roland Warren

Read more about  “The Hole in Justin Bieber’s Soul” 

Fatherhood Friday Don’t Be Scared

Kenan Thompson from “Saturday Night Live” was recently on Late Night with Seth Myers talking about his pending fatherhood.  The SNL star is expecting his first child in late June with wife Christina Evangeline and although he joked their is usually truth in jest.  Man up, Good Burger! No time to be scared, time to get prepared! Get ready … #FatherhoodFriday

“I’m about to be a daddy. Papa Kenan! I am terrified. I don’t know what to do with babies. I plan to be at the casino when she’s giving birth, like old schoolin’ it,” Thompson, 35, joked Friday on “Late Night with Seth Meyers.” – Kenan Thompson

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Serious Comic Book on Fatherhood

A comic book on fatherhood? Why not!  My life is definitely a comic strip of superhero proportions.  Here is a serious take on it with new crime noir comic book, “Fatherhood” from Challenger Comics.  #DADsRule

“When a father sets out to get the doll and make his daughter smile, he fails miserably. The pressure makes him crack and he enters an imaginary ‘noir world’ where he is strong enough to handle the problems that crush him in everyday life. FATHERHOOD is an emotional tale about how much love your heart can hold, how much love it takes to break a man, and what happens when you lose your grip on reality because you are clutching that love too tight.”

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Told my kids their one word job description is #OBEY as a child of God mine is the same. #DadsRule #fatherhood #Godtoo

Black Fathers Doing More Parenting

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While President Obama and many others are calling for a state of emergency on Black fathers, things are not as bleak as the media would have you think.

According to a recent report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, black fathers spend more time rearing their children than white and Hispanic fathers.

In the study 70 percent of Black fathers were most likely to have bathed, dressed, diapered or helped their children use the toilet every day compared with 60 percent of white fathers and 45 percent of Hispanic fathers.

A higher percentage of black fathers spent more time driving their kids to activities than white fathers and more black fathers helped their children with homework every day compared with Hispanic dads and white ones.

Now I am not saying Black fathers should ease up or take fatherhood any less lightly.  It’s just good to know that Black fathers are on the right track.  Just thought we would share.  #DadsRule #FatherhoodFriday

Fatherhood Friday Bob Marley from Daughter

 

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Cedella Marley is Bob Marley’s eldest child and in celebration of Bob Marley’s recent birthday, it seemed like a cool thing to hear from his daughter about him as a cool dad.  Interesting insight into the music legend.  One Love  #FatherhoodFriday

Excerpts from an interview with Cedella with BBC News Magazine:

He was a cool dad, as cool as they come.

If he was in town he would always be the one that would come and pick us up from school, take us to the beach. We’d go running, swimming. He was very competitive, a work-out fanatic.  Whenever he would come and pick us up from school, I would walk out with my chest up and my nose in the air.  I was like, “That’s my dad.” He was the sexiest dad in prep school. I was proud of my dad. 

He was very strict about our schoolwork. We went to Catholic schools. It was very funny for people who would say, “Your father is such a Rastafarian.” And I was, “Yeah and he sent us to Catholic schools!”

I wouldn’t say he was a cuddly dad, but he was fun. He was funny – he would always try and make you laugh.”

He wrote songs, hanging around, and it was fun to watch him too. It was kind of casual, if we were sitting back watching tv, he’d have his guitar.

Music was important in our childhood. It wasn’t something that we had to do. My father’s attitude was, “If you want to do it you can do it, but if want to do it you’re going to have to be great at it.”

He was a perfectionist – it had to be perfect.

He said: “If my life is just for me then I don’t want it.”

But I know what he meant. If you can’t do something that would help to bring about change, then what are you living for? Even though our time was short, he was a great person to have as a father.

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Read more at BBC 

 

Also if you can make it to NYC check out … the NY Off-Broadway Premiere of Bob Marley’s Three Little Birds at the New Victory Theatre February 7-23, 2013 after a local run at the recently completed Bowie State Fine and Performing Arts Center in January, 2014. Three Little Birds premiered at Adventure Theatre MTC in March 2013 and is based on the book by Cedella Marley with music & lyrics by reggae legend Bob Marley, and enjoyed a well-received run earlier this season. Ticket information for the season is at available at NewVictory.org and at (646) 223-3010.

Daddycool review of the play – We saw it first!

 

 

 

Fatherhood Friday Fallon

The new host of “The Late Show” feels that being a dad trumps everything including his coveted holy grail late night slot. Jimmy Fallon became a dad in July 2013 and is still beaming from his introduction to fatherhood. He had a long struggle to have a child and ended up having his daughter, Wendy, through a surrogate.

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“I can’t stop looking at her. When I’m not holding her, I’m looking at photos of her on my phone. She’s the coolest – the best thing to ever happen to me.” -Jimmy Fallon

“There’ll be nights when you’re sitting on your couch, and you’re with your beautiful wife, who you can’t believe married you, and your beautiful baby, who you feel endlessly grateful you were able to have. And your dog. You’re watching Real Housewives getting into fist-fights on TV. And you go, ‘How great is my life? I’m so happy right now.’- Jimmy Fallon

 

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24:7 Dad eBook

Are you a full time dad or want to be?  Well, National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI) has  a brand new series of eBooks to help dads. tips4raisinghealthykids

“The 24/7 Dad® To Go eBook Series”  is short and sweet snippets tackling issues we face such as marriage and relationships, child development, and specific fathering skills and discipline. Each eBook will be based upon the principles of NFI’s leading fatherhood program, 24/7 which is a fatherhood program used by many community-­based organizations in the U.S.  Its premise is that fatherhood is a skill-­based activity that dads can get better at with the right mix of knowledge and inspiration.

Each month there will be a new book. The first book in the series, “Tips for Raising Healthy Kids.”

Recent research confirms the strong link between father and child health. For example, children in father-­absent homes are twice as likely to be obese than children in two-­parent homes. Furthermore, a father’s involvement and parenting style is predictive of his children’s BMI, whereas a mother’s is not.

The content of “Tips for Raising Healthy Kids” has been compiled and enhanced from the proven fatherhood skill-­building resources that have been field-­tested for over a decade, according to NFI.

This eBook is designed for dads who:

  • want to live healthy and
  • raise healthy kids.

 

We teach you the tips and tools for:

  • getting and staying physically and mentally healthy,
  • raising healthy kids, and
  • leading your family in a healthy lifestyle.

 

Each eBook will be sold for $1.99 at NFI’s online resource center, FatherSOURCE, at http://www.fathersource.org.

 

Fatherhood Friday on Fatherhood

Actor Hank “Not a children kind of person” Azaria explores fatherhood through a new documentary web series. 

He talks to his famous friends including my #1 seed as the worst TV dad that you love to hate, Breaking Bad’s Bryan Cranston. It starts with questions about fatherhood for a soon to be father and along the comically cynical journey Azaria becomes a father.

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Check it out http://on.aol.com/video/hank-azarias-fatherhood-518085093

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Fatherhood Friday JustSaying

For Fatherhood Fridays we will switching things up a bit in 2014. We will not only have celebrity quotes on fatherhood but quotes from everyday super cool dads and other musings like “JustSaying.”  Stay motivated to be better dads this year and remain cool all the while.  #FatherhoodFriday is the #FF!  #DadsRule

 

 

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Following Ralph Nader to the Dinner Table

Read this with an open mind with a keen eye on the parenting aspect. I was watching the documentary on Ralph Nader, “An Unreasonable Man” and something really stood out to me that had nothing to do with his beliefs, Nader-unreasonable-manconspiracy theories, the Green Party or “Nader’s Raiders.”  Instead, what grabbed me was how when he was in grade school his father would give he and his siblings a problem to solve each day.  They would have the day to think and come together to discuss answers over dinner.

I thought this is great way to help scuplt young minds and make critical thinking fun.  Also it could help my children understand that nothing is set in stone, and to seek their own solutions to problems.

A great line from the movie was when Nader’s father asked him: “Well, Ralph, what did you learn in school today? Did you learn how to believe or did you learn how to think?”

As a parent, I want my kids to be thinkers.  I want them to know that their thoughts could one day change the world, so it starts now.  It starts at the dinner table, it starts in the car, it starts with me listening, and reassuring them that no answer is wrong as long as their can support their view. Encourage them to have their own views and not be shy about expressing them.

I decided to try this problem-solving scenario out on my three little ones (7-9 years old).  We were dealing with the hot topic of bullying. It was in the news with the Incognito- Martin NFL scandal and my eldest daughter was facing a bit of bullying in her classroom. My questions to the kids, “If you were in charge of your own school, what would you do about bullying and what rules might you put in place to stop that behavior?”  I asked them during the ride to school and informed them they had until dinner to think of their answer.

The first day, they all forgot to think about the question but the next day they came to the table with solutions.  They even took the time to name their school’s; “Kurios University” and “Ipod Touch 5 Generation Charter School” which sounded vaguely like items on their Christmas list. Subtlety is not a quality my kids possess.

The solutions they presented were similar to what was already in place in there school.  I encouraged them to think outside of the box, so we began to brainstorm at the dinner table.  I told them nothing was off limits or too outrageous, aside from jail or murder, of course.  My kids are a happy and loving bunch, so it didn’t go too far but it got them thinking.  Most important they were left feeling their opinion mattered.  All in all the experiment was a success.

Nader never had kids and likely never will. but what he shared from his upbringing in the documentary will help me rear my kids.  As a single parent I need all the help I can get. Thanks Ralph, you are not so unreasonable after all.

Below is the full documentary if you would like to watch it.  Well done. Also learn some of the good Nader has done; without him cars might not have seatbelts or any safety features for that matter.  Enjoy.

NBA Star Scores TV Show About Single Dad

Propelled by the sucess of his book, “A Father First,” Dwayne Wade will soon be turning his real life single dad story into a sitcom.  ”Three The Hard Way,” will be the story of an NBA star who gets full custody of his two young sons will be loosely based on Wade and produced by his production company.  He has already sold it, so it is definitely in the works.  NBA Star TV 

Wade want his show to be a mixture of comedy and life lessons like the “Cosby Show” was for so much of my generation.

Keep pushing the envelope and the fatherhood movement.  We need more images of fathers and single ones for sure. #DadsRule

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Fatherhood Friday The Greatest

This Fatherhood Friday we recognize the greatest … the champ, Muhammad Ali. Ali is the father of nine and while he is a staple in history books, he will always be one cool dad to his children.

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“Service to others is the rent that we pay on earth for our room in heaven”
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When it comes to be a great dad …

“IT AINT BRAGGING IF YOU CAN BACK IT UP”
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New Book Bets on Black Dads

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This month a new book debuts set to shatter stereotypes of Black fathers though positive and inspirational essays about everyday

fathers written by the daughters they have raised. Bet on Black:  African-American Women Celebrate Fatherhood in the Age of

Barack Obama was inspired by President Barack Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative which encourages and supports

responsible fathers. 

“This book is incredibly near to my heart—just like my father,” explains the book’s editor, Kenrya Rankin Naasel.  After years of

hearing how terrible Black men are at taking care of their children, I realized that it is important to share the positive stories like

ours,”

Through this collection of thoughtful essays, twenty women wrestle with the much maligned image of the Black dad

and shed light on the touching relationships they have with the dynamic fathers in their lives.

DaddysCool was privy to the advanced proof and we were quite impressed and moved. I know personally there is nothing like hearing

from my daughters what I mean to them and those sensory and personal moments are captured here in this book.

Visit www.BetOnBlackDads.com for more information.

Their is a book tour for the launch of Bet on Black: African-American Women Celebrate Fatherhood in the Age of Barack Obama. A celebration with signings, readings and Q&As in NYC, Philly and D.C.

New York, NY
October 12, 2013 | 12 p.m. to 3 p.m.
Brunch signing at The Living Gallery BK
1094 Broadway, Brooklyn, NY 11221

Philadelphia, PA
November 1, 2013 | 6 p.m. to 8 p.m.
Cocktail signing at ART SANCTUARY
628 S 16th St., Philadelphia, PA 19146

Washington D.C.
November 2, 2013 | 1:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m.
Brunch signing @ The Foundry Gallery
1314 18th St. N.W., Washington, D.C. 20036

Fatherhood Friday with Russell Simmons

simmons4 Today we look towards Russell Simmons, a consummate entrepreneur, entertainment mogul, co-parent and father to Aoki and Ming Simmons. Uncle Rush!

 

“The greatest or at least one of the greatest contributions you can make to humanity is to be a good dad to your children.  YOUR WHOLE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND THEM.  If it’s not true, make it true, it’s never too late. Start now!” – Russell Simmons

 

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Fatherhood Friday New Batman

With all the talk swirling about the next Batman being the former DareDevil, Ben Affleck, we firgured at Daddyscool we would deflect some of the Bruce Wayne hysteria in showing the cool dad in Affleck. Read some of what he has to day about fatherhood.  #FF is the new #FatherhoodFriday

Interruption:  Check out the Twitter frenzy http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/heat-vision/ben-affleck-as-batman-negative-613619

Now, back to your regularly scheduled program  … #DADsRule

“I think we all like to see ourselves as good dads, but there’s also that fear, ‘Oh, I don’t want to be like my father,’ or, ‘I hope my kid doesn’t turn out like me.’ You know, I have those feelings too. So the key is optimism.” Ben Affleck

“”I love being a father, it’s wonderful. It’s changed my life. All the clichés are true.” Ben Affleck

 

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Single Dad Needs Help

The story of Stanley Young, a single dad of eight, hit home not just because he lost his home in my hometown but because all he wants is to provide for his kids.  This is all any single dad or mother wants to be able to do. He was rendered helpless when his home was burned down.  It warmed my heart when rapper Nas immediately stepped in to start a campaign on the out-of-work construction worker’s behalf.  Nas put in $5000 and challenged the nation to meet at $20,000 goal and he would put in another $5000, which he has done.  The Young family still needs your help.  Act now!

Visit https://www.crowdtilt.com/campaigns/help-the-young-family/ for more info and PLEASE donate what you can.  #DADsRule

See The Young Family’s story, it’s gut-wrenching.

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