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While President Obama and many others are calling for a state of emergency on Black fathers, things are not as bleak as the media would have you think.
According to a recent report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, black fathers spend more time rearing their children than white and Hispanic fathers.
In the study 70 percent of Black fathers were most likely to have bathed, dressed, diapered or helped their children use the toilet every day compared with 60 percent of white fathers and 45 percent of Hispanic fathers.
A higher percentage of black fathers spent more time driving their kids to activities than white fathers and more black fathers helped their children with homework every day compared with Hispanic dads and white ones.
Now I am not saying Black fathers should ease up or take fatherhood any less lightly. It’s just good to know that Black fathers are on the right track. Just thought we would share. #DadsRule #FatherhoodFriday
Cedella Marley is Bob Marley’s eldest child and in celebration of Bob Marley’s recent birthday, it seemed like a cool thing to hear from his daughter about him as a cool dad. Interesting insight into the music legend. One Love #FatherhoodFriday
Excerpts from an interview with Cedella with BBC News Magazine:
He was a cool dad, as cool as they come.
If he was in town he would always be the one that would come and pick us up from school, take us to the beach. We’d go running, swimming. He was very competitive, a work-out fanatic. Whenever he would come and pick us up from school, I would walk out with my chest up and my nose in the air. I was like, “That’s my dad.” He was the sexiest dad in prep school. I was proud of my dad.
He was very strict about our schoolwork. We went to Catholic schools. It was very funny for people who would say, “Your father is such a Rastafarian.” And I was, “Yeah and he sent us to Catholic schools!”
I wouldn’t say he was a cuddly dad, but he was fun. He was funny – he would always try and make you laugh.”
He wrote songs, hanging around, and it was fun to watch him too. It was kind of casual, if we were sitting back watching tv, he’d have his guitar.
Music was important in our childhood. It wasn’t something that we had to do. My father’s attitude was, “If you want to do it you can do it, but if want to do it you’re going to have to be great at it.”
He was a perfectionist – it had to be perfect.
He said: “If my life is just for me then I don’t want it.”
But I know what he meant. If you can’t do something that would help to bring about change, then what are you living for? Even though our time was short, he was a great person to have as a father.
Read more at BBC
Also if you can make it to NYC check out … the NY Off-Broadway Premiere of Bob Marley’s Three Little Birds at the New Victory Theatre February 7-23, 2013 after a local run at the recently completed Bowie State Fine and Performing Arts Center in January, 2014. Three Little Birds premiered at Adventure Theatre MTC in March 2013 and is based on the book by Cedella Marley with music & lyrics by reggae legend Bob Marley, and enjoyed a well-received run earlier this season. Ticket information for the season is at available at NewVictory.org and at (646) 223-3010.
Daddycool review of the play – We saw it first!
The new host of “The Late Show” feels that being a dad trumps everything including his coveted holy grail late night slot. Jimmy Fallon became a dad in July 2013 and is still beaming from his introduction to fatherhood. He had a long struggle to have a child and ended up having his daughter, Wendy, through a surrogate.
“I can’t stop looking at her. When I’m not holding her, I’m looking at photos of her on my phone. She’s the coolest – the best thing to ever happen to me.” -Jimmy Fallon
“There’ll be nights when you’re sitting on your couch, and you’re with your beautiful wife, who you can’t believe married you, and your beautiful baby, who you feel endlessly grateful you were able to have. And your dog. You’re watching Real Housewives getting into fist-fights on TV. And you go, ‘How great is my life? I’m so happy right now.’- Jimmy Fallon
#FatherhoodFriday is the new #FF … #DadsRule
Are you a full time dad or want to be? Well, National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI) has a brand new series of eBooks to help dads.
“The 24/7 Dad® To Go eBook Series” is short and sweet snippets tackling issues we face such as marriage and relationships, child development, and specific fathering skills and discipline. Each eBook will be based upon the principles of NFI’s leading fatherhood program, 24/7 which is a fatherhood program used by many community-based organizations in the U.S. Its premise is that fatherhood is a skill-based activity that dads can get better at with the right mix of knowledge and inspiration.
Each month there will be a new book. The first book in the series, “Tips for Raising Healthy Kids.”
Recent research confirms the strong link between father and child health. For example, children in father-absent homes are twice as likely to be obese than children in two-parent homes. Furthermore, a father’s involvement and parenting style is predictive of his children’s BMI, whereas a mother’s is not.
The content of “Tips for Raising Healthy Kids” has been compiled and enhanced from the proven fatherhood skill-building resources that have been field-tested for over a decade, according to NFI.
This eBook is designed for dads who:
- want to live healthy and
- raise healthy kids.
We teach you the tips and tools for:
- getting and staying physically and mentally healthy,
- raising healthy kids, and
- leading your family in a healthy lifestyle.
Each eBook will be sold for $1.99 at NFI’s online resource center, FatherSOURCE, at http://www.fathersource.org.
Actor Hank “Not a children kind of person” Azaria explores fatherhood through a new documentary web series.
He talks to his famous friends including my #1 seed as the worst TV dad that you love to hate, Breaking Bad’s Bryan Cranston. It starts with questions about fatherhood for a soon to be father and along the comically cynical journey Azaria becomes a father.
Check it out http://on.aol.com/video/hank-azarias-fatherhood-518085093
For Fatherhood Fridays we will switching things up a bit in 2014. We will not only have celebrity quotes on fatherhood but quotes from everyday super cool dads and other musings like “JustSaying.” Stay motivated to be better dads this year and remain cool all the while. #FatherhoodFriday is the #FF! #DadsRule
Propelled by the sucess of his book, “A Father First,” Dwayne Wade will soon be turning his real life single dad story into a sitcom. ”Three The Hard Way,” will be the story of an NBA star who gets full custody of his two young sons will be loosely based on Wade and produced by his production company. He has already sold it, so it is definitely in the works. NBA Star TV
Wade want his show to be a mixture of comedy and life lessons like the “Cosby Show” was for so much of my generation.
Keep pushing the envelope and the fatherhood movement. We need more images of fathers and single ones for sure. #DadsRule
This Fatherhood Friday we recognize the greatest … the champ, Muhammad Ali. Ali is the father of nine and while he is a staple in history books, he will always be one cool dad to his children.
“Service to others is the rent that we pay on earth for our room in heaven”
- Muhammad Ali
When it comes to be a great dad …
“IT AINT BRAGGING IF YOU CAN BACK IT UP”
- Muhammad Ali
#FatherhoodFriday is the new #FF … #DadsRULE
This month a new book debuts set to shatter stereotypes of Black fathers though positive and inspirational essays about everyday
fathers written by the daughters they have raised. Bet on Black: African-American Women Celebrate Fatherhood in the Age of
Barack Obama was inspired by President Barack Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative which encourages and supports
“This book is incredibly near to my heart—just like my father,” explains the book’s editor, Kenrya Rankin Naasel. After years of
hearing how terrible Black men are at taking care of their children, I realized that it is important to share the positive stories like
Through this collection of thoughtful essays, twenty women wrestle with the much maligned image of the Black dad
and shed light on the touching relationships they have with the dynamic fathers in their lives.
DaddysCool was privy to the advanced proof and we were quite impressed and moved. I know personally there is nothing like hearing
from my daughters what I mean to them and those sensory and personal moments are captured here in this book.
Visit www.BetOnBlackDads.com for more information.
Their is a book tour for the launch of Bet on Black: African-American Women Celebrate Fatherhood in the Age of Barack Obama. A celebration with signings, readings and Q&As in NYC, Philly and D.C.
New York, NY
October 12, 2013 | 12 p.m. to 3 p.m.
Brunch signing at The Living Gallery BK
1094 Broadway, Brooklyn, NY 11221
November 1, 2013 | 6 p.m. to 8 p.m.
Cocktail signing at ART SANCTUARY
628 S 16th St., Philadelphia, PA 19146
November 2, 2013 | 1:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m.
Brunch signing @ The Foundry Gallery
1314 18th St. N.W., Washington, D.C. 20036
“The greatest or at least one of the greatest contributions you can make to humanity is to be a good dad to your children. YOUR WHOLE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND THEM. If it’s not true, make it true, it’s never too late. Start now!” – Russell Simmons
#FatherhoodFriday is the new #FF
With all the talk swirling about the next Batman being the former DareDevil, Ben Affleck, we firgured at Daddyscool we would deflect some of the Bruce Wayne hysteria in showing the cool dad in Affleck. Read some of what he has to day about fatherhood. #FF is the new #FatherhoodFriday
Interruption: Check out the Twitter frenzy http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/heat-vision/ben-affleck-as-batman-negative-613619
Now, back to your regularly scheduled program … #DADsRule
“I think we all like to see ourselves as good dads, but there’s also that fear, ‘Oh, I don’t want to be like my father,’ or, ‘I hope my kid doesn’t turn out like me.’ You know, I have those feelings too. So the key is optimism.” Ben Affleck
“”I love being a father, it’s wonderful. It’s changed my life. All the clichés are true.” Ben Affleck
The story of Stanley Young, a single dad of eight, hit home not just because he lost his home in my hometown but because all he wants is to provide for his kids. This is all any single dad or mother wants to be able to do. He was rendered helpless when his home was burned down. It warmed my heart when rapper Nas immediately stepped in to start a campaign on the out-of-work construction worker’s behalf. Nas put in $5000 and challenged the nation to meet at $20,000 goal and he would put in another $5000, which he has done. The Young family still needs your help. Act now!
Visit https://www.crowdtilt.com/campaigns/help-the-young-family/ for more info and PLEASE donate what you can. #DADsRule
See The Young Family’s story, it’s gut-wrenching.
Being a dad can be HARD! Protect yourself early and often. This Durex commercial hits it on the head LOL I love being a father and wouldn’t change it for the world, but this is funny. #DADsRule
Fatherhood Friday, I am praying for the family of Trayvon. A father who had to listen to his “son’s last cry for help.” A father who has to live with the fact that Trayvon was under his care when he died. How helpless he was and is now. A father that had to sit through the murder trial of his son. I don’t want to imagine such pain. While thousands black out their social media avatars, I will pray. Join me …
So I grab The Kid’s wallet this morning to put a few dollars in it and discovered that he had recently become a condom carrying member of the teenaged community. My immediate thought was, this dude is barely responsible enough to keep-up with his wallet, much less to use a condom. But in this case, I suppose over-ambition is better than the alternative. Of course it was also cause for conversation, so I waited ’til we were eating dinner to bring it up. Segueing from a totally unrelated conversation about … I said, “Speaking of … why’d you take a condom without asking and put it in your wallet?”
Honestly, I was almost scared of the answer. Then I remembered I was talking to a 14 year old boy. So, of course he said, “I don’t know.” I asked if that was the first and only one he took. He said, yes. I asked him if he felt like needed it. He said, no. We were both a little uncomfortable and there seemed to be a mutual sympathy for having to put each other through this, yet we both understood it was entirely necessary.
I told him, while it was wrong to have taken it without asking me, I thought he should keep it. Yeah, he wasn’t exactly expecting to hear that. And I’m pretty sure I wasn’t expecting to say that either.
There were a few conditions, however:
1.) He still had to ask me for it, if only for the sake of reinforcing the principle of the matter and because I wanted him to hear me say, “Yes.”
2.) He also had to store it responsibly, not exposed, half-hanging out of his wallet.
3.) He had to tell me if he used it.
4.) And finally, he had to know how to use it, which meant I had to show him how to properly inspect, open and unroll a prophylactic (sans the banana).
Then I desperately pleaded with him to talk to me about any and everything that happens, before it happens–which I fully realize may not happen. But the most important part of the conversation came post-demonstration. I spoke to him very candidly about my experiences and the perspective I’m afforded as an adult that I didn’t have as teenager. I told him about the unplanned pregnancies (him being one) and the fact that I’m practically a unicorn for never having contracted an STD. I even showed him the (positively negative) HIV screening I took last month.
None was meant to scare him, but impress upon him a greater sense of responsibility. We’ve always had a unique relationship and never was that more evident than tonight. It had its awkward moments, but it was also peculiar thrill to see him look at me with disbelief and reverence at the same time. He knows he’s getting intel that most of his peers are not. And I found myself thinking about how much I could’ve used this kind of wisdom at his age–how many of my friends could’ve–how many of his friends could now.
It’s a Google wallet I got him last year ’cause I figured it was too red for him to misplace or lose. Embossed on the front is, “I’m Feeling Lucky.”
In a new video promo for his album, Jay-Z discusses how his shortcomings as a father and husband stem from not having a father himself. In his new song “Blue,” Jay reveals his fears of fatherhood and in “Heaven,” he discusses his interaction with his daughter Blue Ivy for all those willing to listen. His new album Magna Carta Holy Grail drops soon; actually July 4th, if you have a Samsung. So you will have to wait.
If there is one thing that can be said about his music is that he sprinkles heartfelt truth here and there. This is something that can’t be said about most Hip Hop these days. It would appear that with being a dad he is shedding more of his braggadocio and bling to show more of his makeup as a man.
“I have a daughter,” Jay-Z explains. “It’s the paranoia of not being a great dad.” Fatherhood will change you! If it doesn’t you are not doing it right. You can take that to the bank.
We don’t expect a car to start unless the gas tank is filled, and we shouldn’t expect a child to function at her best if her “emotional tank” is running low. Here are the three things that fill a child’s emotional tank: eye contact, gentle touch, and undivided attention. (excerpt from Jan Hunt’s “22 Alternatives to Punishment”)
Have you filled your children’s emotional tank today? How did you do it?
Make a commitment to not have your kids running on empty and see how they operate on a full tank or at least half full … Let’s be reasonable.
Many of us have friends that we think are good parents or people we read and follow that seem to be parenting wizards. But as the old saying goes, “all that glitters is not gold.” Being great parents is something all parents struggle with to get better. Where do we place our trust as dads?
#DADsRule Question of the Day:
Is it OK to steal parenting ideas from other parents? And what happens when copycat parenting goes wrong?
Matt Damon father of three daughters recently said the following:
“Fatherhood is something I have always wanted to do. Although sleeplessness is the toughest part.”
#DadsRule QUESTION OF THE DAY:
What is the toughest thing about fatherhood?
The toughest thing for me is having people depend on you; the responsibility of their needs and wants rest on your shoulders. Especially as a single dad, ok with about your needs and your mistakes and a carefree cool dude okay with his shortcomings. If my needs are not met, so be it. If I make a mistake, I can get over it. But with fatherhood, every move you make, every breath you take; they’ll be watching you (Shout out to STING).
If I forget to wash clothes, my kids won’t have clean clothes to wear. If I forget to go shopping for food, the kids can’t eat. If I miss the deadline to turn in a permission slip, my kids can’t go on the field trip. When they are late to school, guess who’s fault it is?
Being a dad there is more pressure than ever to make money, get things right, get there on time, get your life organized, because if you don’t there are pretty little people that will be very disappointed. There is nothing worse than a disappointed kid.
What do you think is the toughest thing about fatherhood?
It was a treat to take my kids, ages 7 and 8 years old, to a marvel of sight and sound that would be the world premier of the musical “Three Little Birds” at Adventure Theatre, located at Glen Echo Park in Maryland. The play is based on a children story by Cedella Marley infused with the music and lyrics of her dad, Bob Marley.
READ MORE >my full review
If you are in the DC area the play runs until April 14th and trust you do not want to miss it!
I give it 3 smiles … my 3 kids all loved it and to get them all on the same page with liking anything is impossible at times.
tickets available at www.adventuretheatre-mtc.org
Hands down! The title goes to the Greek yogurt I have never heard of and will never eat. Starts with an “O.”
#2 goes for Ferris. The extended version, you didn’t see from HONDA CR-V. Life moves pretty fast …
Last was the ETrade commercial on Fatherhood. Baby Speed Dating …
Check out HBO The Wire’s Tray “Poot” Chaney giving real talk about being a dad. The video features three generations including his dad, son and himself. It’s directed by Lamar Tyler of the blog Black and Married with Kids. Being a father is the most important thing a man can do. This video speaks volumes. WATCH and repost. Share it with some young men. #DADsRULE