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Happy Halloween 2014

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Wishing you a Happy Halloween from the Tucker 3 as Vampiress (Nya), Zombie (Arin) and Sally from The Nightmare Before Christmas (Michal).  Funny thing is my kids have never seen the Tim Burton classic, but they maybe of age to watch it this Halloween.

Also cool dads I have a tip for you this Halloween to cut down on the candy consumption by  “offering a different way of thinking that involves incentivizing the kids to m ake a healthier choice…one that reaps rewards!  Cash Money!  Check out this qick video from @RealIronDad www.realironman.com

 

 

Fatherhood Friday The Walking Dad

I’ve been a fan of Norman Reedus since I got hip to the cult classic flick The Boondock Saints many years ago.  A single cool dad, Norman Reedus now plays a zombie killer on the hit AMC series The Walking Dead and in real life is killing stereotypes of dead beat dads. The father of one son, Mingus, he spends as much time with his son as he can. According to Reedus, fatherhood is one thing he doesn’t run from.

“I’m really enjoying being a father. I love that. I run toward that every opportunity I can get.” – Norman Reeds

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On what he’s learned from his son, Mingus: “Patience. He doesn’t freak out about anything. He’s so calm, cool and collected.”

Even what terrifies him has to do with fatherhood …

On what really terrifies him: “Have you ever sat in a parent-teacher meeting with a bunch of moms and you? That’s terrifying. I did that recently, where I was sitting in a room with all moms and me. And everyone’s talking about how we should structure this after school program, and I’m just like ‘Ah!’”

#FatherhoodFriday #Halloween #DadsRule

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Fatherhood Friday Royal

The 2014 World Series is in full swing and for star Kansas City Royal outfielder Lorenzo Cain, so is fatherhood.  On his day off between the sweep of the Angles and start of the American League (AL) Championship Series against Baltimore, Cain and his wife, welcomed Cameron Loe Cain. Now he has to adjust to his first time in the World Series and his first time being a dad.  We salute cool dad and AL Championship MVP, Lorenzo Cain today.  We wish him luck in the big series game and the more important game of fatherhood. 

“It’s hard to juggle it, but it’s definitely a once-in-a-lifetime type of thing to have a kid and get a chance to go to the World Series.” – Lorenzo Cain

 

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“Haven’t mastered it yet, but I’m willing to learn.” – Lorenzo Cain

Pretty much sums up my thoughts on fatherhood, bro! #DADSrule

Fatherhood Friday Chris Hemsworth

Thor actor, Chris Hemsworth is a cool dad to a 2-year old India and recently born twin boys Sasha and Tristan. Fatherhood Friday we salute The blood son of Odin … ok excuse the comic book nerd moment. #DadsRule

“I think [fatherhood] brings out the child in all of us.” – Chris Hemsworth

“That’s what’s so beautiful. It reminds you of the fascination you had with things, and how you can spend hours just being with someone. It’s amazing.”  – Chris Hemsworth

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Keep Kids Busy: Homeschooled

Recently during a holiday, the kids had a free day off school which feels like a Saturday to them but daddy needed to be able to get some work done. Operation: Keep Kids Busy (KKB) was born. My idea … home school!  I know, you would think the last thing kids want to do on a day off is school.  That’s like on your day off from work, you pretend to go to work.

The thing with kids is that they like activities and they secretly (and sometimes openly) want to be in charge of things. So, I decided to let them all be teachers for the day.  They would each pick a subject, do a lesson plan and run their class how they wanted.  Michal (oldest girl) chose Math, Nya (middle girl) picked English and my son Arin taught P.E., of course.  They did this on their own in the basement. My wife and I were school administrators. I prepped lunch in the cafeteria (dinning room) and at the end of the school day talked to each of them about the experience. I ended up teaching a cooking course on gumbo, but that is for another blog post.

This kid activity was a success, mind you it works best with multiple kids involved. It can be done any day the little ones are lazing around to keep the kids busy.

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KKB Kid Feedback:

Nya – “It was fun learned multiplications and algorithms. P.E. was so fun.  I liked teaching.”

Arin – “It was hard. Nya was very strict. I liked being a teacher.”

Michal – “Some of the students weren’t good. Nya was a mean teacher.  Arin was a nice teacher. The exercises were good and the video he picked was fun. I liked being a student more!  *Being a teacher wasn’t as fun as I thought. At school teaching seems fun, it seems like the teachers are having fun. It wasn’t always fun dealing with these students they were complaining about when lunch would be.”

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Have the kids planning lessons to teach each other different subjects. They are excited. go figure.#noschoolday #homeschool day #kidactivities life w multiples #DadsRule

Superman vs Lobo: College Dad Balls Hard for Son

 

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Sometimes being a dad comes down to being a hero or a wolf, in many minds.  Deshawn Delany chose to be both and has a great reason.  Delaney is an All-star basketball player for the University of New Mexico Lobos with the goal of balling hard enough to make it to the NBA and save his 4-year old from the perils of his Chicago (ChIRAQ) neighborhood. Delaney had to leave his son to pursue a dream of a better life.

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Delaney’s neighborhood, Altgeld Gardens

 

“It was very hard not seeing him every day. Still is,” Delaney said of his son. “But this is my way of feeding him and providing for him. If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be here right now.”

 

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As a junior in high school he was on his way to flunking out, until he found out he would soon be a teen.  His son changed his character and drive on and off the court. He would get his diploma and go on the junior college before being a wolf on the court for the University of New Mexico.

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Delaney grew up without a father but longed for a father figure in his life.  He plans to be that super man to his son that he never had in a dad. The men that Delaney looked up to were his basketball coaches.

“I want to be a coach one day,” Delaney said. “I want to coach my son, one day like Craig Neal is with Cullen Neal. I want that.

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“I love seeing it. Everyday I tell Cullen he’s blessed to have that – to have a father like that. Not too many people have a dad like that. He’s got support. His dad cares about him. Even when his dad gets on him, I tell him to just take it. If he didn’t care about you, there’d be none of that.”

Now as a highly touted senior, Delaney hopes to have a breakout season to help ensure that he can be all that he dreams of for his son.

“Hopefully I don’t go back to Chicago, ever,” Delaney said. “I just want to move my mom and my son out of there.” His Instagram is a reminder “A FATHER B4 IM ANYTHING.”  We salute this Lobo! #DadsRule

Read indepth story by Geoff Grammer HERE

Shaking My Head “All Day” From One Dad to Another

I don’t know what to say about Minnesota Vikings All Pro, Adrian Peterson. He is on trial for child abuse and this week violated the terms of his bond by smoking marijuana before a mandatory drug test when admitted on court record to “smoking a little weed.”  His trial is not scheduled  until December 1, so it is likely that Peterson will not play again this season.  Prosecutors have filed to have Peterson re-arrested for the violation.

Peterson has fathered at least six children out of wedlock. Two of them were born to different mothers a month apart. Peterson lawyers say he will plead NOT guilty to felony child abuse charge for whipping his 4-year-old son with a switch (slender tree branch).

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Why not guilty? Peterson has admitted hitting the child, but contends it was intended as discipline, not to injure the child.

When Peterson’s son returned to his mother following a visit with the NFL running back, a check up at the doctor revealed the welts and authorities were alerted.  According to the boy,“Daddy Peterson hit me on my face” and threatened to punch him in the face if he reported what happened, the police station reported. The child also reportedly told his mother that Peterson “likes belts and switches” and “has a whooping room.”

I guess my problem is not with the action to discipline but the action of discipline. Before one gets to the excessive method of the punishment, at the core his son was too young.  Cognitively a 4-year old is still learing right from wrong and understanding things that it is up to his dad to help him understand.  The severity of force at such a young age causes more mental trauma than a child learning a lesson.  There are a variety of things that would hurt a child, even if a last resort spanking is the road chosen.

It is tough raising children, take it from a dad with multiples and there were times that I went a bit far but it was more to instill fear in my children, so that they know daddy might be a little crazy. Co-parenting is also a chore because one might be the stern parent and the other might not be and because you are not parenting in the same household the child may not always adjust to the changes in parenting.  As a parent you have to take that into account because it isn’t the child’s fault. Some patience and leniency have to be shown  toward teenagers, let alone a younger child with less grasp of the situation.

But even more, there is also a bit of common sense involved with parenting. Kids are more protected than we ever were when I was young. Spankings were everyday life and not random acts of abuse. It was common to see kids getting whippings in church, school and even in front of police officers. Not so today. Parents are getting locked up, embarrassed and terminated from jobs because of being accused of child abuse. Adrian Peterson didn’t get the memo and clearly he is not the sharpest pencil in the NFL supplies closet with his need to get high and further sabotage his case and career.

Peterson is on record saying that his dad would pull his pants down and stuff leaves in his mouth to keep him quiet while he spanked him. It’s said that this was discipline but as a dad we have to also break cycles.  Maybe this trial will help Peterson see that his dad was wrong and the cycle can be adjusted and broken.

 

Fatherhood Friday Channing Tatum

Channing Tatum is a little over a year into this fatherhood thing so today we salute the movie star.  He is cool dad to a baby girl, Everly, and husband to actress Jenna Dewan Tatum. #FatherhoodFriday

“I’ve never protected the president [in real life], but I have been a new dad, and I can tell you that being a new dad is pretty terrifying … to me as a new father, nothing is more important or scary than protecting a daughter.”  – Channing Tatum

No doubt Channing and you will protect your daughter as all cool dads do.  #DadsRule

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Fatherhood Friday Dave Chappelle

When we think of Dave Chappelle at DaddysCool, we don’t think “crazy,” but “courageous.” He felt that the spotlight and fame was not “conducive to raising a family” and walked away from $50 million to continue doing his TV show. You all probably know by now that he is back, but we wanted to give the cool dad of three some shine.

 

“Money is the fuel for choices. But There are other things in my life that I did not purchase w money that are very valuable to me”. – Dave Chappelle

“Once I got kids I got focused.” – Dave Chappelle

“Constantly take inventory of what’s important to you.” – Dave Chappelle

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Speak Low to Your Children

Get on your child’s level, if you want them to hear you and learn from you. #DadsRule

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