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Fatherhood Friday with a Wildcat

Although Villanova got bounced out of the NCAA Tournament before the Sweet Sixteen, we at DaddysCool love their head coach Jay Wright.  We ran across a recent interview in support of Dove Men+Care and got some fathering gems. One thing I am, if nothing else is honest with my kids about my faults and the learning curve that I am in called fatherhood. Happy #FatherhoodFriday

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Jay Wright on being a dad:

“If they are new dads get ready because you are not getting any sleep. Then it is an incredible journey. Try to enjoy every minute of it.  Don’tjay-wrights-wife-patty-wright-vuhoops beat yourself up either. Do the best you can as a parent. Be honest with your kids about that.

Being a college coach I want to be at my own kids’ games. Thank God my wife is great at that. You feel guilty when you miss something. You do your best to be at everything. Just communicate that with them. Talk to them. Tell them that you want to be at this game or I won’t be at this game or I made a mistake here, but you mean a lot to me and I want to share things with you. I think the honesty aspect and doing the best you can as a parent is good enough. You will learn that your kids don’t want you to be perfect either. As long as you let them know that you are human and that you are honest with them.”

source: Yahoo Voices (read full article)

 

“Happy” Remix Just For Daddies

Clap along if being a daddy feels good to you.  I am happy with this retooling of Pharrell’s “Happy” by daddy DJ LV.  Check it out! #DadsRule

Fatherhood Friday from OMG insider

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Kevin Frazier is the co-host of OMG!Insider and a dad of three boys, the first of which he had at age 19. You might think he is a veteran at fatherhood, but there is always something new to learn about yourself and how to better parent. Take it from the single dad of multiples writing this.

Frazier sat down with Robert “Daddy” Nickell of My Life As A Dad to talk about being a daddy.  One major point I took from the interview was when Frazier came to a realization while trying to push athletics on his youngest son.
“His life isn’t my life and I can’t project that on him. A great lesson for me. Let them find their own journey.” – Kevin Frazier

Words to live by … Salute! #fatherhoodFriday #dadsRule

What Bieber Really Needs is a Dad

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The image of Justin Bieber bare-chested on the cover of Rolling Stone Magazine sent Huffington Post blogger Roland Warren into a poignant tirade about fatherhood or lack there of, in the Biebs case.  Warren gives excerpts from the article and his overall view of Bieber and how the lack of a dad is his life is the reason of his very public downward spiral.

“I have a special place in my heart for fatherless boys because I know well their lonely journey. A boy has a hole in his soul in the shape of his father. God whispers into the womb of his mother that there is a man who will love him like no other. But, if his father is unable or unwilling to fill this hole, it can leave a wound that is not easily healed.” – Roland Warren

Read more about  “The Hole in Justin Bieber’s Soul” 

Just Say No to Handheld Devices

girl-on-mobile-deviceHuffington Post blogger Cris Rowan has been kicking up dust calling for parents to ban all handheld devices in the kids 12 and under. It seems a bit extreme, but she does back up her argument with some stats from various studies. Personally, just like anything we allow our children to do, we must be the adults and set up the schedule. When it comes to electronics it really becomes a problem when parents allow these devises to babysit the kids in order to get more daddy or mommy time, or mommy and daddy time.  This hurts your child’s developement and ultimately your relationship with them.

Check out Rowan’s

10 Reasons Why Handheld Devices Should Be Banned for Children Under the Age of 12

1. Rapid brain growth
Between 0 and 2 years, infant’s brains triple in size, and continue in a state of rapid development to 21 years of age (Christakis 2011). Early brain development is determined by environmental stimuli, or lack thereof. Stimulation to a developing brain caused by overexposure to technologies (cell phones, internet, iPads, TV), has been shown to be associated with executive functioning and attention deficit, cognitive delays, impaired learning, increased impulsivity and decreased ability to self-regulate, e.g. tantrums (Small 2008, Pagini 2010).

2. Delayed Development
Technology use restricts movement, which can result in delayed development. One in three children now enter school developmentally delayed, negatively impacting literacy and academic achievement (HELP EDI Maps 2013). Movement enhances attention and learning ability (Ratey 2008). Use of technology under the age of 12 years is detrimental to child development and learning (Rowan 2010).

3. Epidemic Obesity
TV and video game use correlates with increased obesity (Tremblay 2005). Children who are allowed a device in their bedrooms have 30% increased incidence of obesity (Feng 2011). One in four Canadian, and one in three U.S. children are obese (Tremblay 2011). 30% of children with obesity will develop diabetes, and obese individuals are at higher risk for early stroke and heart attack, gravely shortening life expectancy (Center for Disease Control and Prevention 2010). Largely due to obesity, 21st century children may be the first generation many of whom will not outlive their parents (Professor Andrew Prentice, BBC News 2002).

4. Sleep Deprivation
60% of parents do not supervise their child’s technology usage, and 75% of children are allowed technology in their bedrooms (Kaiser Foundation 2010). 75% of children aged 9 and 10 years are sleep deprived to the extent that their grades are detrimentally impacted (Boston College 2012).

5. Mental Illness 
Technology overuse is implicated as a causal factor in rising rates of child depression, anxiety, attachment disorder, attention deficit, autism, bipolar disorder, psychosis and problematic child behavior (Bristol University 2010Mentzoni 2011Shin 2011,Liberatore 2011, Robinson 2008). One in six Canadian children have a diagnosed mental illness, many of whom are on dangerous psychotropic medication (Waddell 2007).

6. Aggression 
Violent media content can cause child aggression (Anderson, 2007). Young children are increasingly exposed to rising incidence of physical and sexual violence in today’s media. “Grand Theft Auto V” portrays explicit sex, murder, rape, torture and mutilation, as do many movies and TV shows. The U.S. has categorized media violence as a Public Health Risk due to causal impact on child aggression (Huesmann 2007). Media reports increased use of restraints and seclusion rooms with children who exhibit uncontrolled aggression.

7. Digital dementia
High speed media content can contribute to attention deficit, as well as decreased concentration and memory, due to the brain pruning neuronal tracks to the frontal cortex (Christakis 2004, Small 2008). Children who can’t pay attention can’t learn.

8. Addictions
As parents attach more and more to technology, they are detaching from their children. In the absence of parental attachment, detached children can attach to devices, which can result in addiction (Rowan 2010). One in 11 children aged 8-18 years are addicted to technology (Gentile 2009).

9. Radiation emission
In May of 2011, the World Health Organization classified cell phones (and other wireless devices) as a category 2B risk (possible carcinogen) due to radiation emission (WHO 2011). James McNamee with Health Canada in October of 2011 issued a cautionary warning stating “Children are more sensitive to a variety of agents than adults as their brains and immune systems are still developing, so you can’t say the risk would be equal for a small adult as for a child.” (Globe and Mail 2011). In December, 2013 Dr. Anthony Miller from the University of Toronto’s School of Public Health recommend that based on new research, radio frequency exposure should be reclassified as a 2A (probable carcinogen), not a 2B (possible carcinogen). American Academy of Pediatrics requested review of EMF radiation emissions from technology devices, citing three reasons regarding impact on children (AAP 2013).

10. Unsustainable
The ways in which children are raised and educated with technology are no longer sustainable (Rowan 2010). Children are our future, but there is no future for children who overuse technology. A team-based approach is necessary and urgent in order to reduce the use of technology by children. Please reference below slide shows onwww.zonein.ca under “videos” to share with others who are concerned about technology overuse by children.

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Fatherhood Friday Don’t Be Scared

Kenan Thompson from “Saturday Night Live” was recently on Late Night with Seth Myers talking about his pending fatherhood.  The SNL star is expecting his first child in late June with wife Christina Evangeline and although he joked their is usually truth in jest.  Man up, Good Burger! No time to be scared, time to get prepared! Get ready … #FatherhoodFriday

“I’m about to be a daddy. Papa Kenan! I am terrified. I don’t know what to do with babies. I plan to be at the casino when she’s giving birth, like old schoolin’ it,” Thompson, 35, joked Friday on “Late Night with Seth Meyers.” – Kenan Thompson

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Serious Comic Book on Fatherhood

A comic book on fatherhood? Why not!  My life is definitely a comic strip of superhero proportions.  Here is a serious take on it with new crime noir comic book, “Fatherhood” from Challenger Comics.  #DADsRule

“When a father sets out to get the doll and make his daughter smile, he fails miserably. The pressure makes him crack and he enters an imaginary ‘noir world’ where he is strong enough to handle the problems that crush him in everyday life. FATHERHOOD is an emotional tale about how much love your heart can hold, how much love it takes to break a man, and what happens when you lose your grip on reality because you are clutching that love too tight.”

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Stuart Scott Kicking Cancer’s Ass

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ESPN anchor Stuart Scott’s quiet fight against cancer is getting louder.  A recent artcle about him in The New York Times is the amplifier to blare Scott’s battle to the masses. If you have ever watched ESPN’s “SportsCenter” over the years you know Stu and the hip way he has helped change the way sports highlights are reported. The article sheds some light on the personal life of someone that I have watched  so often that he feels like one of the fellas.

Part of me felt bad that I didn’t know anything about his illness, but the other half felt incouraged and ready to cheer him on from the Screen Shot 2014-03-12 at 8.56.59 AMsidelines. Scott, 48, has two teen daughters and he speaks of how they deal with his illness, in the article.

When he first learned he had cancer, the girls asked him a lot of questions. Taelor once asked if the cancer would kill him, he recalled. “I         said: ‘It could, and that’s why we’re doing everything we can. That’s why I’m taking every medicine I can and that’s why I keep working        out so we can keep traveling the way we do and so I can act silly and goofy and keep embarrassing you.’?”

Scott is divorced and shares custody of daughters.

“I love my girls more than the air I breathe!” – Stuart Scott

Read about his everyday fight with cancer HERE. #DadsRule

Fatherhood Friday Quote

 

Here is something to keep you inspired on Fatherhood Friday. Keep banging. #DadsRule

 

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I’m No Superman: Tough Dad Lesson

Sometimes I feel like Superdad flying high over all things parenthood. Battling the forces of naughty and nice, showing love that would stop a bullet, moving faster than a locomotive to get things done and using X-ray vision to see bad behavior in the distance.

Other times, I feel like Clark Kent, the absolute opposite of the superhero I am. I feel weak where I was strong and my kids become myno superman kryptonite, draining me of energy the nearer they get. Sometimes I find myself sinking in quicksand and just want to give up.  It’s a dream that ends with death.  A death that will surely wake me if I just let go and open your eyes. But I can’t, fatherhood is no a dream, it’s real and I’m no Superman. Being a dad is a never-ending battle to be a superhero.  Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, sometimes you want to cry and sometimes you play the fool. But the bottom-line is, you have to be stronger.

The other day, was like any other in Metropolis. Up early, kids dressed and fed.  I dropped my oldes daughter at an event and rode the bus with my son, Arin, to his basketball game. My son was playing basketball with all of his normal excitement, when all of a sudden he got taken out and ended up sitting out the rest of the game crying.  I flew in, normal Superdad fashion to save the day, but there was nothing I could do to save him.  Tears turned into rivers with each of my words to him. At one point when I asked if he believed in himself his answer was, “No.” Self-doubt is a killer. Kryptonite! My powers were useless. I just wanted to turn in my cape and ball up in a corner to lose all fatherly powers. But I could not and would not. I felt a variety of emotions from sad and frustrated to angry and exhausted. He didn’t know how to deal with disappointment in the game or disciplining of a coach. He recently turned 8 years old, but in my mind, he should have handled it better. In hindsight, it is these moments that should not defeat us but teach us.

Now that I know some of the issues, I can work on toughening him, because giving up is not an option for him or me. As a child I learned so many things on my own. But having a child means being involved, it means loving, nurturing and leading. Being a dad means teaching and investing time and attention to the thing you want your child to understand.  Sometimes you have all the answers and other times, not a clue in planet of Krypton.  The key is that your kids don’t dictate your impact on their lives, you do. Leave your imprints all over them. This is your chance to get it right. 

Maybe there were things your mom or dad didn’t teach you.  Maybe there are things you wished you learned along the way in making you who you are.  Well, as a dad you have everyday to re-write and edit the story.  Your child is your legacy and you have a major part in how the story ends.  Looking at yourself allows you a glimpse into your child’s future. If you were Superman, it would be nothing to change the future but you are not, so consistent work is required. A phone booth won’t work, even if you could find one on Ebay.im no superman

“Superman stands alone. Superman did not become Superman, Superman was born Superman. Clark Kent is how Superman views us. And what are the characteristics of Clark Kent? He’s weak, unsure of himself… he’s a coward. Clark Kent is Superman’s critique on the whole human race.”  – Quentin Tarantino

Superman had to act weak to fit in, but as fathers, we start out that way.  You are not born a Superdad, but you can become one, at times.  Your child needs you to.

#DadsRule

 

Gaga Harpist Assists and Showcases Boys & Girls Clubs with Music

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Lady Gaga harpist and singer, songwriter Tulani Jolley (formerly Rashida Jolley) has released an album with the help from some special little friends with the proceeds going to the Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Washington.  We at DaddysCool are very excited about this.  Jolley made an awesome impression on my young girls who attend Clubhouse #14 in DC.  When I picked them up one night, they went on and on about Jolley.  She so inspired and encouraged them.  Now Jolley is using her time there with my daughters and the other kids to give back to them.  Proof positive that DadsRule see below what Jolley says:

“My father inspired me to give back all that was given to me, and so it is an honor to release the “BE YOU” EP featuring the Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Washington on iTunes & Amazon. 50 percent of proceeds will go to support ARTS programs for the Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Washington. Please support our youth who need us most. The iTunes link to get the “BE YOU” EP is:
http://bit.ly/1bWsDHE
The Amazon link is:
http://www.amazon.com/Dream-feat-Girls-Greater-Washington/dp/B00ILJ1XHG/ref=sr_sp-atf_image_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1393569490&sr=8-2&keywords=Tulani “

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